Thursday, April 27, 2006

Pants on Fire

Did I mention that my oldest fson T lies? He lies a lot. About everything. Even when he knows he's going to get in trouble for it. If you told him that he wouldn't get a birthday party if he continued to lie......he wouldn't get a birthday party because he just lies all the time.

I know that we tend to set him up to lie so we try really hard not to do that. I give him chances to tell the truth. I praise him when he gives truthful answers but he still lies as the first option. I have had truth right in front of my hands and he still lied. He thinks he's going to get away with it every time. He never learns his lesson and it drives me crazy!

He has issues with food. I'm not going to get into it but let's just say he's not allowed snacks because of it. I have told him that I will always tell anyone that watches him for us that they are NOT allowed to give him snacks and yet he asks them every time.

Why am I bitching about this? Well, J's mother watched him on Monday and he asked for food. She told him that he had to wait until I got home. When I got home she said (in front of him) that he asked for food and I said to him (in front of her), "T knows he's not allowed to have anything between lunch and dinner." I even talked to him about it later that night.

And what did he do today???? He told her that he always gets a snack after school. WTF? Why does he do that?




I may later regret posting this. I'm just really angry that this keeps happening. We've tried all sorts of rewards/punishments and I'm not really looking for advice. I just needed to vent.


Writeveda said...

I used to do that. I out grew it. Hopefully you can just hold onto the sanity long enough.

Then again, I have a friend who told her son she didn't believe him (though she knew he was telling the truth) in order to teach him a lesson about trust. It actually worked, but I don't know that it would with everyone. It's also a little mean, maybe.

Good luck!

~ bridgette ~ said...

I hope he outgrows it. It's been very hard to find an incentive big enough to encourage him to tell the truth. I shouldn't have to bribe him to tell the truth but punishing the lying doesn't seem to be working.

It's just so frustrating!

HomeFireBlue said...

Ugh, sorry you're going through this. Perhaps he will grow out of it.

I've cured my oldest daughter of lying (by punishing) but she's three so it's easier.

I hope it resolves itself soon!